Reprogramming the Subconscious Mind
Be conscious of what you ask for.
"Wherever our goals are unclear, the Universe does its best to fill in the blanks. Unfortunately, it's what shows up in the details we did not plan on that seriously undermines our desired goals and aspirations."
"Be conscious of what you ask for because you're going to get it."
Review your subconscious programming
"...assess whether our own behavior, especially the invisible, subconscious kind, would be compatible with the kind of partner we desire."
"Does my subconscious programming support my heart's desire?"
Am I the type of person that would attract the type of person that I want?
95% of your behavior is controlled by subconscious minds - focus on rewriting those subconscious behavioral programs that interfere with realizing your desires.
The fundamental belief - I love myself - must be lodged firmly in your subconscious mind.
Start reprogramming
hypnosis or repetition (habituation)
Communication
Couples must have the same level of awareness of the subconscious roadblocks they each face.
If only one person in the couple is aware of this behavioral programming, trying to engage in change would be like talking to a brick wall. If one person is not interested in or ready for change, then change simply will not occur.
Patience
Practice